There is nothing that is worse than buying a home and then realising that you have nightmare neighbours. Figuring out how to confront your bad neighbours can be a real problem. However, you do not have to put up with your neighbour’s undesirable behaviour. Dealing with bad neighbours is a delicate affair, and with the right approach, you can turn it into an opportunity to build a good relationship.
Here’s how to go about dealing with bad neighbours
Assess the situation
To start with, make sure that you are not a bad neighbour yourself. It is easy to see what your neighbour is doing wrong, but is it is a little harder to understand how your behaviour might be affecting others. Understand the impact of your actions is essential to addressing your bad neighbours. After all, you will never get your neighbours to shape up if they think you are also a problem. With this in mind, assess the situation and ensure that you are as close to a model homeowner as possible. Here are a few har questions to ask yourself:
- Firstly, what are my noise levels like?
- Secondly, are my pets quiet and friendly?
- Thirdly, do I keep things tidy?
- Lastly, do I respect and observe property lines?
Develop a friendly relationship
Do you know that most people do not even know the names of their neighbours? Needless to say, this can be a major hindrance to resolving conflicts peacefully. As such, introduce yourself to your neighbours and develop a strong rapport you can build upon when problems occur. It will be much harder for your neighbour to continue causing you grief if they see you as a friendly face. To start a pattern of good communication, advise your neighbours in advance any time you are having a party, renovation or anything that can cause noise.
Assume good intentions
When approaching your neighbour, do not take a hostile position and go into it guns blazing. Consider dropping by your neighbour’s in a friendly and relaxed manner and approach the subject in a cordial fashion. More often than not, neighbours do not even realise they are creating a problem. Therefore, avoid taking an accusatory tone when addressing your neighbours.
Be sympathetic if your neighbour complains
While it is important to bring up problems with your neighbours, it is just as crucial to be sympathetic if your neighbour complains. As such, be thoughtful and cooperative when you are the one accused of poor behaviour. Sometimes complaints from neighbours might not make much sense to you, but it is really important to be friendly and accommodating. Respond to complaints in a similar fashion you would like your complaints to neighbours to be addressed.
Typically, when you engage in friendly conversation with neighbours and highlight any issues, your neighbours will comply. However, that is not always the case ad there maybe need to bring in a third party. Do everything you can to resolve an issue peacefully, but document every step of the way just in case. Maintain a detailed and relevant record of everything in the event that you will need to engage a third party to resolve the problem.
Know the rules
Research the rules before jumping to take action. Make sure you know what you are talking about before turning your complaint into legal action. Try to get a sense of what the neighbourhood rules are pertaining to your issue. Make sure you are on the right side of things before making a big deal out of the issue.
Contact the authorities
If you have tried everything else without success, then it might be time to get the authorities involved. Ensure you involve the right authority for that specific issue. Remember to always use this as a last resort as this can really turn relationships with your neighbours sour.